97. Remember People’s Name

The truth is, we’re all hugely self-centered creatures.   When someone remembers our name, our ego gets a nice little stroke and a wave of importance and good feeling rushes through us.  Naturally, we project that good feeling onto the source, the person who remembered our name, instantly raising their status and cool-quotient in the process.  If you wanna reap those benefits, the cool thing to do is to remember names.

A variation of this is the Preemptive Re-intro. Let’s be honest, remembering names are hard.  Often you’ll find yourself in a situation where you know you know the person but you also know that neither one of you can remember the other’s name.  In such a case it’s best to sleekly address the pink elephant in the room by re-introducing yourself before things get weird.  Approach them with all the warmth of an old friend, “Hey, good to see you again, what’s going on?” and then immediately and subtly remind them of your name, “Allen”.  They will instantly reciprocate with their own moniker and everyone will feel an enormous sense of relief that nobody had to say the uncomfortable, “I’m sorry, I’ve totally forgotten your name”, phrase.

Or you can just  guess.  This worked once for me when someone I swear I’ve never met before came up to me and said, “Hey Allen, how are you?” at a university beer garden.  I stared blankly at her for a minute and then said, “I’m well….Jennifer, how are you?”  “I’m awesome!” she miraculously responded.   It’s risky because you have a 99.9% chance of being wrong, but the little adrenaline rush you feel when you roll the dice is pretty awesome.

4 Responses to “97. Remember People’s Name”

  1. I agreee. But the ‘automatic re-intro’ failed me once. I reintroduced myself to someone who looked familiar, but I couldn’t quite place in front of a table full of people – classy move, I thought.

    The guy just gave me a disgusted look and said, “Yeah, Ryan. I know. I’ve met you three times before.” Awkward silence, followed by nervous laughter.

    Then I high-fived everybody, ordered the best looking meal at the table, and made out with a hot chick for dessert, so it was alright. But it was touch-and-go there for a minute.

  2. The part of my brain that remembers names is broken. So i get around it by immediately giving someone the coolest nickname i can think of. example:

    “Hi Trevor, good to see you again”

    “Vitamin-B, looking good!”

    “Umm… B?”

    “Cause your look is the Bee’s knees”

  3. yea, name remembering is a touchy subject. it can get pretty awkward 😛

    one of my tricks is to introduce the person to a friend of mine, and “forget” to do the whole bob meet bill, bill meet bob thing… the names come out like a charm 🙂

    also when meeting someone for the first time and getting their name, try to assign their name to something that you’ll remember. like for instance lets say you meet a mike with an afro. just think mike, microphone (afros kinda look like microphones) then next time you see him youll think microphone then mike!

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